The desire to be noticed by another human being is innate. We all want to be seen, valued and heard, but how often do you really feel like that happens? How often do you really make others feel like they have been seen, valued, and heard by you? It's a two way street in this world. If you can't genuinely be present for another person then how can you expect them to be present for you. I recently downloaded this great app. called Buddha's Brain (and yes I do think I have become obsessed with apps) but I found the newsletter that the app. lead me to even more helpful.
The newsletter is called "Just One Thing" from the author Rick Hanson and it's a free newsletter that gives you a simple practice each week to sort of work with. One that I feel pertains to this topic was titled "Who is Behind the Mask"
This newsletter was discussing the mask or persona we all have in everyday life. Now don't get me wrong, we all have some sort of mask in certain situations, and as he states there is a place for that in the world. There is also a place for connection in this world. I think we often get too caught up to really notice each other. By recognizing the true person sometimes a somewhat difficult persona, could then be diffused and difficult relationships can improve. This practice can even make good relationships better just by being more present.
Here's how; Take a moment to relax while in the presence of others and really notice them. Not what they are doing or or even saying at the moment (although actively listening to people is always important) Just see them as another human who wants love, happiness, health and well being. We may be adults at this point in our lives but inside we are all still those children on the playground. Children who want to connect and make friends and be accepted. It helps me to remember these things and be softer in my interaction with others in this world. This in turn also helps me to be more accepting of myself as well. Hope any of this information is helpful to all who read this blog!
Here is a link to get this newsletter called "Just One Thing" By Rick Hanson.